The third Monday of every November is Throw-away-ugly-shoes Day. It’s the day we toss all of the ugly shoes we’ve accumulated in the back of our closets.
Don’t lie. You have them. Shoes that you bought for a wedding, work, or to go out on the town in. They may have been cheap or, worse yet, on sale. And now, even though you know you don’t need them, you are having a hard time making the big break with them.
But let’s be honest, you don’t like them.
Women sometimes have unhealthy attachments.
Attachments can be an issue for women. We get used to having shoes at the back of our closet. Even if they are useless, we keep them. Our boyfriend may have picked them out, a friend might have said we looked good in them, or they may have been the perfect color for a work outfit.
Now they sit there filling that void in the corner, and we conjure up reason after reason why we shouldn’t get rid of them.
But no more. This Monday we are going to do a little sole searching. Ask yourself a few simple questions:
What drew you to those shoes?
Take a long look at the reason you chose those shoes in the first place.
You may have been shopping—alone. They weren’t exactly what you were looking for, but you had a wedding to go to and didn’t have any to wear. They were low healed. Sturdy. You thought you’d look good on the dance floor with them.
Or maybe your friend had a similar pair. She wore them out every weekend. To the bars. Shopping. Scrap booking. So you bought that brand of shoe, too—they seemed to fit.
Or finally, maybe you needed cushy, sensible shoes to wear on the job. You saw a newspaper ad. It was enticing. Now work shoes fill that empty space in the back of the closet.
Regardless of whether it was your boyfriend, friends or work that inspired you, it’s time to ask the hard question:
Why can’t you get rid of them?
Think hard. They’re sitting idly in the corner. You don’t love them. You may never have loved them. So is it the shoe you are hanging on to? Or merely the idea of the shoe filling that space?
For we women, it’s about the void—not the shoe. We were raised to believe that every successful woman has a closet full of shoes. So now we struggle with every inch of emptiness.
Athletchic.com is here to tell you it doesn’t have to be that way. A little open space in your closet is a good thing. You get a better view. You can clearly see which are your most valuable shoes. And you’ll have room to store some other items that will make you forget those shoes.
Like skis, roller blades, a bottle of wine or a box of expensive candy. Put an early Christmas present for yourself there. Stack vacation books for the next time you’re off work. Buy a fireproof file and fill it with irreplaceable items such as—pictures of childhood friends, letters from your family, or your grandmother’s locket. Make sure it can withstand the heat.
Once you’ve organized your closet, removed the useless shoes, and stored a few important items, you’ll have the space and wherewithal to:
Go out and buy the right pair of shoes.
Get dressed. Look in the mirror. You are strong. Beautiful. Too good to fill your closet with any more shoes you don’t like. Then go out and look for a new pair. There are hundreds—thousands—out in the big world waiting for you.
And if it takes a while to find them—who cares?
Don’t force it. You’ll find shoes eventually. And they’ll be perfect. You’ll be wearing them when they’re old and tattered.
The secret is, if you can’t find the right ones on your first venture: go home, snuggle up in front of the fire in your bare feet, and read a good book or watch a great movie.
Because relaxing in your bare feet is comfortable.
So this Monday, instead of wallowing in shoe-tossing dread, take a deep breath and toss.
We promise it will feel good.
Happy Throw-away Day!
________________________________________________________________ Cyndie Zahner is a freelance writer/editor. She’ll be tossing lots of shoes on Monday. Follow her at @ahtletchicz on Instagram or Tweetyz on Twitter.